On again Off again

Truth is, the couples who go through this on again off again relationship are toxic. I don't mean to offend anyone cause I too am a product of "this" relationship. I felt like they blame me regardless of the reason behind the fights. I get it. Now I see my friends go through this and i get why people start to judge.

5 Factors You are in a Toxic Relationship:

1. Denial Stage - no matter how many time your friends warn you that you possibly are more lonely than happy, you shut that idea and say ridiculous things like "it was my fault", "i should've", "we can still fix this". Girl, you better be sure this guy is worth your denial.

2. Emotional Stress - you fight over the most uninteresting thing on earth but you manage to make a big deal out of it. You start to post hints of your fights on FB, twitter, blogposts (ehem), whatever means you have just so other people can read your posts. It gets old... it does. Your friends/family love you so they pretend to care when they pretty much would rather be wasting their time watching sneezing chickens on youtube.

3. Imaginary Savior - you now find yourself doubting if he is the one for you. You hope and pray that your savior finds you in this darkest path or you could be simply flirting with other guys. Like sticking a band aid on top of your wound. This is low girl, maybe he isn't worth your denial after all.

4. Tears vs. Cheers - so it finally has come to this, your thinking that you have cried more than you two laughed ever. It could be your hormones talking tho? but really... this is a big deal if you start thinking this.

5. Fooled you once, twice, thrice - I dunno bout you but promises to me are heavy! like "you break it you buy it" heavy. I mean it will cost you a lot to earn back my trust. Then there are exceptions (which is totes fine) but to the point that he commits the mistake over and over again and you  dim-wittedly let this happen, hence TOXIC.

look alls I'm trying to say is the earlier you figure out your emotions if you are happy or not the better but don't let TIME dictate the reason for staying together, sure you've been together for 4 years now but you find yourself thinking of the 5 factors mentioned above, girl something is wrong and it is up to you to make things right. You are a strong and smart woman, I know you are gonna figure it out.