Verbally Abused!

Abuse. We all have seen and read stories of people who are abused from kids to elderly, women or men, everyone is a possible victim.

The popular one is physical abuse but I want to focus on Verbal abuse for a change.

First of all I would like to state that I'm not a doctor nor an expert in the matter. I am just someone who is concerned and everything I say is in my honest opinion. 

Between the 2 abuses physical abuse leaves scars that in time will heal and fade away, but verbal abuse will damage you and leave you with emotional scars for life. I'm not saying physical abuse is better. They are both wrong! very wrong and there will never be an excuse to do this to other people especially if you claim to love them. Saying that you were not able to control yourself is shit...absolute bullandhorseshit! 

You (if you are an abuser) have no right to do this nor does anyone have the right to hurt you. So tell me what makes you so special to think that you can hurt people by saying words that you know very well will demean their entire being? Now, don't you be making promises of changing or starting over that will eventually be broken. You are not only hurting that person, you are giving them false hope. That's evil, you're evil.

If you, on the other hand have not yet experienced hurting someone in this level, please don't even try. Because once you start you can't stop. It becomes an addiction. An addiction to hurt. You turn into a Sadist with out even knowing. The sad part is you wont admit that you turned into one until its all too late. You use words to slowly kill or drive that person crazy.

Now if you are a victim. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry that you allowed someone to hurt you this way. I'm sorry nobody fought for you. However it's never too late to walk away, stand up for yourself, find someone who can help you, have the courage to accept all that has happened and still make your life better. Please try to see your true value and that you don't deserve to be treated that way, nobody does. 

Dating while in Highschool, Highly Recommended.

Usapang Puppy love muna tayo ;) (lets talk about puppy love)

Based on observation and personal experience, it's safe to say the Middle/High School romance is the sweetest. You're young, innocent, and romantically thirsty to find "the one".

1. flowers, chocolates, mushy FB status every friggin monthsary.
2. obvious yet not so obvious PDA
3. experiencing your very 1st kiss that you know you won't forget.
4. getting caught by your parents dating, even when they clearly said not to date till you graduate!
5. talking on the phone everyday of the week.
6. sneaking love letters
7. showing off your relationship to your single friends
8. getting teased at school all the time, and you honestly like it
9. talking on the phone till the sun sets and rises.
10. your mission is to make out at every possible hiding place in school and not get caught!
11. surprising each other with the most corniest gesture you could ever think of just to ask him/her to be you prom date.
12. you are confident you have a date to the prom.
13. talking some more on the phone... (its amazing how you survived highschool w/o getting any brain damage due to lack of sleep)
14. Willing to spend $$$ for gifts that you will eventually throw away when you guys breakup
15. You think you guys are "Soulmates" and that is the best feeling ever. Especially during Puberty.

Who can blame you? you have the right to be this way, it is your right of passage to experience this and I highly recommend you do because most of what I mentioned above you don't get to experience if you are all grown up and mature. I am not saying that this love is the greatest love of all. Don't get me wrong. However, this is the sweetest one of all.

Problems of a Lazy Individual

I hate this side of me, I might actually go to hell because of this. It truly is a hard habit to break.

My List

1. I know I'm not entitled to do anything worthy today, so i can just sleep all day.
2. Procrastination, my bestfriend.

    3. I can't even finish this friggin post today! -.- Goodnight!

When She Wears the Pants in the Relationship

So the female is more "macho" than the male, but between the both of them it works so haters back off! I once again have been in a relationship that is a little bit like this. lol

7 Friggin Signs that You are More Dominating than Your Man

1. You are in charge of ordering food in resto's.
2. He is the one pulling you out of a fight.
3. You keep planning dates in advance with or w/o his consent. (does it really matter?)
4.If he cannot make up his mind, whatever you have to say is what he will end up doing.
5. He cannot force you to do anything you don't want to do.
6. In an argument, he totally understands that it is pointless to keep on going and makes you win the fight. (it takes a real man to do this, he prolly is a keeper)
7. When your voice is more powerful than his moms.

There you go. I know it isn't ideal to some but if it works, it works. It simply means that you are the type of woman who knows what you want and speak strongly of what you feel and believe in. There ain't no shame in that. It makes you the superior type. You are, if not yet, will be a 'top dog' in your industry. Good for you girl! And to meet a guy who matches this type of woman's personality is (Im no expert but based from observation and experience) the shy and emotional type. He likes being taken care of and does not mind you being in charge of most of the decision making. It makes him even stronger and special to be able to bow down to you, given that they are egotistical creatures, just so he can show you how much you mean to him. My advice is to NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE, these type of men are rare and close to extinction. You have to promise to him and yourself to not forget that he too has a right to take the wheel from time to time cause he too needs to feel how special he is to you and that you too are willing to bow down when needed.

On again Off again

Truth is, the couples who go through this on again off again relationship are toxic. I don't mean to offend anyone cause I too am a product of "this" relationship. I felt like they blame me regardless of the reason behind the fights. I get it. Now I see my friends go through this and i get why people start to judge.

5 Factors You are in a Toxic Relationship:

1. Denial Stage - no matter how many time your friends warn you that you possibly are more lonely than happy, you shut that idea and say ridiculous things like "it was my fault", "i should've", "we can still fix this". Girl, you better be sure this guy is worth your denial.

2. Emotional Stress - you fight over the most uninteresting thing on earth but you manage to make a big deal out of it. You start to post hints of your fights on FB, twitter, blogposts (ehem), whatever means you have just so other people can read your posts. It gets old... it does. Your friends/family love you so they pretend to care when they pretty much would rather be wasting their time watching sneezing chickens on youtube.

3. Imaginary Savior - you now find yourself doubting if he is the one for you. You hope and pray that your savior finds you in this darkest path or you could be simply flirting with other guys. Like sticking a band aid on top of your wound. This is low girl, maybe he isn't worth your denial after all.

4. Tears vs. Cheers - so it finally has come to this, your thinking that you have cried more than you two laughed ever. It could be your hormones talking tho? but really... this is a big deal if you start thinking this.

5. Fooled you once, twice, thrice - I dunno bout you but promises to me are heavy! like "you break it you buy it" heavy. I mean it will cost you a lot to earn back my trust. Then there are exceptions (which is totes fine) but to the point that he commits the mistake over and over again and you  dim-wittedly let this happen, hence TOXIC.

look alls I'm trying to say is the earlier you figure out your emotions if you are happy or not the better but don't let TIME dictate the reason for staying together, sure you've been together for 4 years now but you find yourself thinking of the 5 factors mentioned above, girl something is wrong and it is up to you to make things right. You are a strong and smart woman, I know you are gonna figure it out.